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Time to Take Out the Trash

14 Monday Jan 2013

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Healthy Mind

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Brain Programming, Compassion, Fear, Garbage in Garbage out, Habits, Healthy Mind, Judgments, kindness, Make Space, Mental health, Negative Self-Talk, New Habits, perfectionism, Positive Psychology, Self-defeating Beliefs, Thoughts, Values

Time To Take Out The Trash

Garbage in = garbage out, is a term often used when programming computers.  What if we looked at our brains like computers and acknowledged that we picked up some garbage along the way? By the time we are seven years old, we are pretty well programmed by the people who raised us, siblings, teachers, peers, religious organizations, television and society.

Think about the negative statements, judgments, rules and values that you were brought up with during childhood. You were too young to choose these, yet they became your primary programming for adulthood. Here are a few questions to show how “garbage in” produces “garbage out.” Are you kind to yourself?  Caught up in perfection? Tolerant of other’s mistakes?

As adults, we can begin to empty the garbage from our brains by becoming aware of the negative self-talk, fears, and self-defeating beliefs and habits that don’t serve us.  Thank them for being there and release them.  It’s time to take out the trash and let them go.  Make space for new ways of being towards yourself and others, with kindness and compassion.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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Are You a Rose, Tulip or Daisy?

19 Monday Nov 2012

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Dating, Finding a Good Match, Friendships, Getting Your Needs Met, Healthy Mind, Job Search and Interviewing, judgement, looking for a new job, medical practitioner, new friendship, Rejection, Relationships, Respecting Differences, Synergy, Values

Whether you are dating, looking for a new job, seeking a medical practitioner or cultivating a new friendship, many people overlook the importance of “interviewing each other” in order to find a good match.

Do you fear being rejected or being rejecting? Do you worrying about being hurt or hurting someone else’s feelings?  What if it doesn’t have to be about rejection? What if we are like flowers; a rose, a tulip or a daisy, each with our own unique qualities, looking for a compatible matching flower?

It really doesn’t matter if you are a rose, tulip or daisy. What matters is that you consider who you are, your likes and dislikes, your values and needs, what you are willing to accept and where you aren’t willing to compromise.

Without judgment, it’s about whether you are a good match.  It’s about what you bring out in each other, the synergy, if you can work together, support each other, and if it truly is a good fit. Honor yourself and the other person. Respect your differences if you are not a good match, say so and move on.  It may be mutual.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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