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You Can Only Offer An Opportunity

22 Monday Apr 2013

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Healthy Mind

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Behaviors, Boundaries, Choices, Compromising, Consequences, Decisions, Decisions about Self, Decisions at Work, Decisions in Relationships, Disappointment, Effects of Choices, Expectations, Freewill, Healthy Mind, Mental health, Opportunities, Rewards, Saying No, Saying Not in That Way, Saying Not Now, Saying Yes, Self-serving Choices, Self-serving decisions, Threats

You Can Only Offer An Opportunity

We can make an opportunity attractive to another person (adult or child) with a reward or with a threat, but ultimately it’s the other persons’ choice to decide what they will do.

When we want someone to do something they don’t want to do, rather than getting disappointed or angry at them, think about the times when you use your freewill to decline an opportunity from someone else.

We always have the choice of saying “yes or no,”  or “not now or not in that way.”  Every decision we make, whether it’s deciding to do or not do something, for ourselves or another person, has a consequence and an effect on ourselves and others.

Today, think about what you are expecting of others and what others are expecting of you. Before you answer, ask yourself if what you are being asked to do is something you want to do, don’t mind doing, or actually enjoy doing. We often choose to do things we would rather not do because they are self-serving, such as tasks at work, compromising to maintain relationships, and exercising or going to bed early to take care of our bodies.

Remember, you can never get anyone to do anything. You can only give them the opportunity to choose, and the choice is always theirs.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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Cultivating Self-Discipline

25 Friday Jan 2013

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Family Fun

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Behavior Changes, Creating Healthy Habits, Family Fun, Fear as a Motivator for Change, Parenting, Personal Improvement, Rewards, Self-discipline, Self-discipline for children and adults, Sticker Charts, Tracking Progress

Cultivating Self-DisciplineSelf-discipline is defined as training and control of oneself and one’s conduct, usually for personal improvement. How do we learn self-discipline and teach it to our children?

Self-discipline can be reinforced by earning rewards along the way or at the end of reaching a goal, such as mastering a skill, establishing a regular physical activity routine or losing 10 pounds. Fear can be another motivator, especially when your health is at stake.

When what we have to do to reach our goal conflicts with what we want to do, or don’t want to do, the inner-conflict usually wins and we talk ourselves out of doing what is necessary to move towards our goal.  Self-improvement takes time and effort.  In order to master a musical instrument, language or athletic skill, we must practice. The same can be said with most goals, we must do something different and practice that behavior until it becomes part of us.  We may be drawn back into our old routine, or prefer to be spontaneous and have fun, when we  need to spend 20 minutes being self-disciplined.

While self-discipline is easier for some adults and children, and more difficult for others, it comes down to finding the willingness to take small steps in the direction of our goals, even when we don’t feel like it. It may be helpful for both adults and children to use a chart to visually track their progress.  See Sticker Charts for Children and Adults.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

Rewards for Kids and Teens

04 Friday May 2012

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Family Fun

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Activities, Family Fun, Fun, Healthy Body, Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Mind, Outings, Physical exercise, Rewards

Rather than rewarding with food, use words, activities, outings, or athletic apparel or equipment.  The gift of time with your children is one of the greatest gifts you can give them.  Engage with them in an activity that they like, play a game together, or take a walk together.  Kids of all ages, whether they want to admit it or not, value time their parents.

Don’t reward with candy or other sweets.

Reward with words not food:

Great job! You’re terrific!

I like how you made healthy choices today.

I admire how you chose to call a friend when you wanted to eat but weren’t hungry.

It was fun walking/running/biking/playing at the park with you today. 

Reward to promote physical activity with:

a jump rope, a hula hoop, a kite, a baseball & glove, a football, a soccer ball, a basket ball, a badminton set, a Frisbee, a volleyball, pool toys

a yoga or exercise DVD, purchased or checked out from the library

an athletic shirt, shorts, socks or shoes

a book about a sport they like or a sports team or individual athlete

Reward with outings:

to the park, to the movies, a shopping trip to the mall, to the zoo, to see a live performance of a play or a concert, or to an amusement park

to see a live sporting event, a baseball, football, basketball or hockey game

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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