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Ask For What You Want

25 Monday Feb 2013

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Healthy Mind

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Anger, Asking, Asking For What You Want, Beating Around The Bush, Being Direct, Complaining, Disappointment, Emotion, Getting Your Needs Met, Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Mind, Mental health, Rejection, Relationships, resentment, Suffering in Silence

Ask For What You WantHow often do we complain, blame and criticize when it would be so much easier to just ask for what we want? Why is it so difficult to be direct rather than beating around the bush or expecting that people should know what we want?  We often wait, focusing on what we don’t have, and suffering in silence while building anger and resentment.

What would it be like to simply ask for what we want? That would require us taking responsibility to get our own needs met, and to be open to the possibility that if we ask, we may not get what we want.  Which is worse, feeling the disappointment or rejection of asking and not getting, or not asking in the first place?

No one person can provide all of our needs.  We may have to rely on friends or other support to help us. If we don’t ask for what we want and seek ways of attaining what is important to us, we most likely will not get it.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

Are You a Rose, Tulip or Daisy?

19 Monday Nov 2012

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Dating, Finding a Good Match, Friendships, Getting Your Needs Met, Healthy Mind, Job Search and Interviewing, judgement, looking for a new job, medical practitioner, new friendship, Rejection, Relationships, Respecting Differences, Synergy, Values

Whether you are dating, looking for a new job, seeking a medical practitioner or cultivating a new friendship, many people overlook the importance of “interviewing each other” in order to find a good match.

Do you fear being rejected or being rejecting? Do you worrying about being hurt or hurting someone else’s feelings?  What if it doesn’t have to be about rejection? What if we are like flowers; a rose, a tulip or a daisy, each with our own unique qualities, looking for a compatible matching flower?

It really doesn’t matter if you are a rose, tulip or daisy. What matters is that you consider who you are, your likes and dislikes, your values and needs, what you are willing to accept and where you aren’t willing to compromise.

Without judgment, it’s about whether you are a good match.  It’s about what you bring out in each other, the synergy, if you can work together, support each other, and if it truly is a good fit. Honor yourself and the other person. Respect your differences if you are not a good match, say so and move on.  It may be mutual.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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