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What to Say When You Talk to Your Kids, Self and Others!

21 Friday Sep 2012

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Family Fun, Healthy Mind

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Communication, Critical Comments, Family, Family and Relationships, Family Fun, Healthy Mind, Parenting, Parenting kids and teens, Positive Psychology, Put-downs, Relationships, Shad Helmstetter, What to say when you talk to your kids

Many adults were not brought up with positive encouraging comments, but rather critical negative put-downs.  The following statements come from the book, Predictive Parenting; What to Say When You Talk To Your Kids, by Shad Helmstetter.  While these statements may feel foreign at first, they are worth saying to your child, yourself, your spouse and any other human being!

That was really great! * You were wonderful! * You really do that well. * As always, you look good today. * You’re a winner! * I trust you. * I can always count on you. * You’re really smart. * People really like you. * I like the way you did that. * You’re really fun to be with. * You make me feel good. * You really take responsibility for yourself. * I like the way you keep your room neat. * You sure have a lot of energy. * You’re really positive! * You always seem to be able to keep yourself busy. * You ended up with the best of both your father and myself. * I really rely on you. * That was close. Next time I know you’ll make it. * Good Job! * You’re beautiful. * You’re very pretty. * You’re handsome. * You make every day brighter. * You sure have a nice smile. * I listen to what you have to say. * You’re a good friend. * You really get along well with other kids. * You’re an achiever. * I can tell you’re going to be successful in life. * You’re very creative. * I’ve noticed you’re a very good listener. * It’s obvious that you care about yourself. * You’re a good runner. * I’m proud of your schoolwork. * That’s much better.  You’re doing great! * You’re really special. * I love you and I like you too! * You make hard things seem easy. * You really practice good manners. * There is no one else like you in the whole world. * I need your advice. * You sure are talented!

Go make someone’s day with a positive, uplifting personal comment!

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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What Makes Up Your Personality?

14 Friday Sep 2012

Posted by creatingahealthylifestyle in Family Fun

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Being Different, Being You, Bringing Out Your Personality, Family Fun, Interests and passions, Likes and Dislikes, New Experiences, Parenting kids and teens, Personality, self expression, Your Uniqueness

What Makes Up Your Personality?Are you funny, smart, calm, driven, cautious, or giving? What makes you unique? Do you ever wonder, “Is it okay to be me with my quirkiness?” “Am I too much?” “What if I’m so different…?” Were you brought up to NOT be seen or heard, and to speak only when spoken to? Do you keep your personality hidden?

Encourage the people you live with, especially kids and teens, to be themselves, each as individuals, warts and all! Acknowledge, and try to understand their likes and dislikes. It will make parenting a lot easier than simply trying to change what you don’t like or agree with.  The same goes for spouses!

Here are some suggestions to bring out the true personality in others:

1. Find out what their favorites are; color, food, entertainment, books, movies, music, sports, subjects in school, interests, passions, etc. For a more in-depth answer, ask, “What is it about ___________ do you like?” Example, “What is it about that book do you like?”

2. When faced with a task, ask others how they would do it.  There are many ways to accomplish things, or in a different order.  When appropriate, allow others to do things their way, even if it’s different from yours. You will learn how other’s think and may even learn a new way of doing something!

3. Be open to new ideas, new experiences, new foods, new styles of clothes, decorating or music.

4. Allow your children to decorate their own bedrooms, an area of their room or the bedding and wall decorations.

5. Encourage family members to each select photos that have special meaning to them. Talk about what is so special about the photos, then frame them or put them up on a wall or on the refrigerator.

Share this and ask others to do it with you too! Here’s to your self-expression!

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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