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Time to Take Out the Trash

14 Monday Jan 2013

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Brain Programming, Compassion, Fear, Garbage in Garbage out, Habits, Healthy Mind, Judgments, kindness, Make Space, Mental health, Negative Self-Talk, New Habits, perfectionism, Positive Psychology, Self-defeating Beliefs, Thoughts, Values

Time To Take Out The Trash

Garbage in = garbage out, is a term often used when programming computers.  What if we looked at our brains like computers and acknowledged that we picked up some garbage along the way? By the time we are seven years old, we are pretty well programmed by the people who raised us, siblings, teachers, peers, religious organizations, television and society.

Think about the negative statements, judgments, rules and values that you were brought up with during childhood. You were too young to choose these, yet they became your primary programming for adulthood. Here are a few questions to show how “garbage in” produces “garbage out.” Are you kind to yourself?  Caught up in perfection? Tolerant of other’s mistakes?

As adults, we can begin to empty the garbage from our brains by becoming aware of the negative self-talk, fears, and self-defeating beliefs and habits that don’t serve us.  Thank them for being there and release them.  It’s time to take out the trash and let them go.  Make space for new ways of being towards yourself and others, with kindness and compassion.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

Best Friend or Worst Enemy?

23 Monday Jul 2012

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Best Friend, Cheerleading Statements, Cognitive behavioral therapy, Dialectical behavior therapy, Healthy Mind, Inner-critic, Mental health, Negative Self-Talk, Worst Enemy

We can be our own worst enemy, talking to ourselves in ways that we would never talk to our friends. It’s common for people to be harder on themselves than anyone else is.  Yet, this ingrained automatic thinking comes from an inner critic that can interfere with our efforts to be happy and healthy, to have satisfying relationships or to reach work or financial goals.

Negative self talk can be changed with some effort and awareness on your part.  Here are some ways to go from being your own worst enemy to being your own best friend:

1. Make friends with your inner critic.  Become aware of what it says to you and when it shows up.

2. When you have critical thoughts, say “Stop, take two,” silently or out loud, then, just like in filming a movie, redo the scene use a cheerleading statement (see #3).

3. Use one of the following “Cheerleading Statements” from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) to get a better handle on your situation and feelings:

– I have the right to ask for help and emotional support.

– I can be anxious and still deal with this situation.

– I cannot control how other people will act towards me or react to me.

– Today I will be calm and confident.

– I may want to please people I care about, but I do not have to do it all the time.

– The richness of the present-moment experience is the richness of life itself.

Love, Health & Happiness,

Phyllis

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